Today’s Mantra: It’s a choice and I choose kindness.

Although by social standards I am considered “middle-aged”, I feel far from wise.  There are still many things I just plain don’t understand and will likely never understand -like being unkind just for the sake of being unkind. Actually, I hope I never understand this.  I’m not a Pollyanna and really do have a firm grip on reality and understand that being kind to most people requires more effort on some days than others and that some people require more of my patience than others.  I’m not even saying that I am never unkind, just never intentionally at least.  If I am, it’s more a result of stupidity or insensitivity on my part than outright cruelty. Some people though, actually seem to relish being unkind. This – I just don’t understand.

Can you think of a time that a stranger showed you a tiny act of kindness that turned your whole day around?  I can think of plenty: acts as simple as holding the elevator door,  slowing down to let someone merge easily, smiling at the driver next to you at a stop light, letting someone go ahead in line that has only two items to check out or choosing to hold your tongue if you have nothing nice to say.  Simple, kind acts that don’t require a lot of effort, but acts that can have a huge impact just the same.  Okay, I admit that – holding your tongue – part can require quite a bit of effort sometimes.

One of my favorite Albert Schweitzer quotes (any I have many) is: You must give some time to your fellow men. Even if it’s a little thing, do something for others – something for which you get no pay, but the privilege of doing it. Like say, smiling at a stranger on a busy sidewalk perhaps? Hmm?

It’s a choice really. Think about it. We may not have control over a lot of things in this world, but we do have a choice about whether or not we choose to be kind to all living creatures.  And, I do mean all living creatures, especially animals.  There’s a whole other blog post in there, I’m sure.

I do my best to choose kindness on a daily basis. If you see me on the street and I’ve made the wrong choice that day, please forgive me – I can be stupid too.  Try smiling at me, it will most likely turn my whole day around.

Today’s Mantra:

Today I will do my best to cultivate kindness and remember it takes only a moment to be kind.

 

Posted in Today's Mantra, Writing | Tagged | Leave a comment

I’m just sayin’… or rather my mug is

I love tea, hot or cold -but especially hot- the taste, the smell, the act of drinking it, the comforting warmth of it, going to a tea house on my birthday every year with my mom, tea mugs, cups, and teapots, the little sandwiches and scones, the tablecloths, gathering for a Mother-Daughter tea with friends, reading about people drinking a restorative cup of tea in English novels… you get the idea.

Most of the time, I’m a pretty easy read.  But, if you have trouble discerning what type of mood I am in, I’ll give you a little hint: just check out what I poured my tea into that day.  It may give you an idea of where I would rather be or where my mind has settled. Good or bad day – the color, shape, style and texture may be a solid indicator of what’s going on in my fragile little brain.

Am I feeling earthy crunchy and one with nature? Or am I dreaming of those long, lazy days at the beach walking along the shore looking for shells and secret treasures?  The kind of day that you wish would last forever. Your skin smells of sunshine and lotion.

The dog smells of salt water and  seaweed.

 

 

The pink of your little painted toes peek out of the sand and you dream of owning a place by the sea where you can live out all the rest of your days in bliss.

 

Or am I in a crafty mood. Sewing, drawing, sketching.  In search of the next bright color to adorn my pretty papers and quotes. Sorting through fabric, patterns, books and buttons. Letting the colors and textures be my inspiration. Feeling blessed to have a moment to create something new, different and mine.

Am I craving peace, calm and serenity? Or, have I just come from yoga with a mind, body and soul that is in balance. Or, do I yearn for a chance to steal away from the hectic world of finance, CNBC and egos?

Maybe, I am ready to get my Knit on. My mind sifting through my yarn bins in search of the perfect wool for the perfect project to make my day perfect.  Knit one, Purl one, Breathe one. Knit one , Purl one, Giggle two. Thinking of my Knitting Peeps at the shop and wondering when we will get the chance to gather together again to share our secrets. Because, what happens at the knit shop, stays at the knit shop!

If it’s a chilly day maybe I’m wishing I was curled up by the fire with the dog, a shawl and a cup of tea.

Dreaming of Spring flowers, green grass and warm beaches.

Hoping the snow doesn’t get too deep and adding one more log on the dancing flames.

Possibly I am in the mood for a good book in the nook? A novel by Jane Eyre perhaps.

A chat with the Bronte sisters.

A poem by Mrs. Browning.

 

 

If it’s a breezy day, maybe my mind is sitting by the window and watching the robins hunt for worms and the bluebirds nibble on raspberries. The bunnies may be taking a romp in the tall grass in the field while the mourning dove sings it solemn song.  I could let my mind wander up to the top of the hill and stare down at the valley below.

It doesn’t matter where I really am, because a cup of tea can transport me to where I want to be. No fancy flying machine is necessary for me to escape to a sweeter more fragrant place.

 

 

 

 

But, let’s be realistic. If things are a bit tough and a cup of tea isn’t cutting it, I can always have a mug of beer. Bottoms up!

Posted in Writing | Tagged , | Leave a comment

Seeing Green

During my twenties, someone asked me why I always wore black, gray or white to work. I don’t remember what my response was, but my forty-something self thinks it had to do with wanting to blend in and not be seen, or maybe it was the seriousness of the financial world.  Not that I want to stand out now at this age, but maybe I am just more comfortable in my own skin, no matter that it has acquired some wrinkles along the way.

Soft gray tones have always been a source of comfort to me and a staple in my closet and surroundings.  A cherished gray wool or cashmere sweater will be donned during times of stress. (I’ve worn through quite a few over the years)

Knowing this about me, it came as quite a shock that

when I started knitting it was “game on” with color.

I have a funny tendency to buy yarn that matches the color I’m wearing. Never said I was original!  I guess that is because it reflects the mood I’m in.

My favorite dominant color has changed throughout my life, but it has always been some shade of green, blue or purple.I also have a tendency to knit projects that reflect the colors of the current season.

Case and point, here is the project I just finished. It is a Baktus.

I call it my Back Field Shawl, because as you will noticed, it is the spitting image of …you guessed it, my unmowed wild and wooly, back field.

The pattern can be found here. The general concept is that  you knit up half of the yarn with an increase every fourth row and then when you get to the middle, you knit a decrease in every fourth row. Sounded like a great idea to me, so I weighted my yarn, split it in half, wound it up and knit away. At the half way point, I started my decreases and just as I was coming down the home stretch I realized I was going to run out of yarn.

Knitter’s Handbook: Rule #1 always make sure that you have enough yarn to finish your
project before you start. UGH!

Thanks to my good friend Allison at the Kitschy Stitch in Rehoboth, who ordered me another skein of Cascade Yarns Lana Bambu, I was back on track to finish with a green flourish.

When I was finished, however; I had an awful lot of the beautiful green bamboo yarn left and the shawl was looking boring, so I added a ruffled border. Voila !

Moral of the story: knit to your mood and surroundings, buy enough yarn for your project and when all else fails add a little ruffle to your world and you too can have the easy zen-filled life of PJ.

Posted in Knitting | Tagged , , | Leave a comment

Today’s Mantra: Let go of the sun at the day’s end

Sometimes looking at a sunset as beautiful as this can make me sad.  Strange, right?  It may be because I am dreading the next day and what it will bring or it may be because the present day is so perfect I don’t want to let it go.  Those perfect days are wrapped in the warmth of the summer sun with cool evening breezes that glide across the water and evaporate the dewy moisture on your sun-kissed skin.  They make you wish they would last forever, suspended in time.

But, if I can’t learn to let go of the sunset, I won’t get to see the sunrise.  Even if I am dreading the following day, there will still be a sunrise and a sunset. And, they will still be amazing miracles in and of themselves, something to be marveled and appreciated.   A reason to be.

Today’s Mantra:

Today I will try to remember to enjoy the moment for what it is – beautiful – and that letting go of it also carries the promise of a new day, a new sunrise and a new sunset … and new miracles.

Posted in Today's Mantra | Tagged , , | Leave a comment

It’s a good thing socks come in pairs

In my opinion, one of the greatest things about knitting is the ability to rip back and fix your mistakes. You know, the quintessential do over.  Oops, I dropped a stitch!  No worries, I’ll just unknit until I reach my error and correct it.  That’s called “tinking” for you non-knitters. Knit spelled backwards. What ? We knitters are a very humorous bunch.

Any way, as I was saying.  I wish all of life were so easy. Oops, I made a stupid comment. No worries, I’ll just rewind to my verbal blunder and unsay it. Ah, knitting. If only you could solve all my stupid problems and silly worries.  I do have quite a few… issues, let’s say.  Although I have an enormous stash of yarn just waiting to be cast on my needles ready to conquer the world, there are some times when the anxiety seems bigger than the stash. 

Fortunately, knitting gives me the opportunity to focus on things that I can change and I can fix and to some extent – I can control. Okay, those who knit probably laughed at that control comment. They know better. But truthfully, what I love about knitting the most is that it allows me to slow my racing mind down to a single stitch. A single second. A single breath.

And, if I haven’t sorted the stresses in my life by the time I finish the first sock, no worries … socks come in pairs.

Posted in Knitting | Tagged , , | 2 Comments

Today’s Mantra: Adjusting My Focus

Letters make up words. Words come together to form sentences. Sentences create paragraphs. Paragraphs fill chapters. Chapters fill books. Books help us learn, escape, cope, dream and attempt to make sense of things. Sometimes, if we are lucky enough to find a good one, they are just full of pretty pictures. Eye candy, thought provoking, calming.

Today’s Mantra:

Today, I will try to remember that although I am good with the details, that details ultimately can led us to the bigger picture of life. Both the details and the big picture deserve notice; they bring the world around us into focus.

Posted in Today's Mantra, Writing | Tagged | Leave a comment

Things are growin’ at Moreland!

Posted in Gardening, Photography | Tagged , | Leave a comment

Our Legacy Tree

For our fifteenth wedding anniversary, we decided to plant a tree, a Legacy Sugar Maple to be exact. It was love at first sight…the husband and the tree.

Couple of quick pictures.

Posted in Gardening, Photography | Tagged , , | Leave a comment

This One Time at Knit Camp…Day 3

Day Three at Squam Art Workshops was quite a day.  Basically, it was fabulous!

It’s hard to put into words all the joy, fun and happiness that was squeezed into this one day, my birthday.  I’ll give it a try, but maybe the pictures will be a better explanation.  Far from home, I still felt the love from family, friends and my Squammies.  Throughout the day, I received lots of FB messages, text messages and emails.  I opened some birthday cards that my mom, hubbie and friend Carmen sent with me, shared two bottles of Moreland Sparkling Wine with my cabin mates and ate some of my favorite Butterscotch Cake with Chocolate icing that my mom has made for me every birthday since I can remember.

Here’s a picture of 9 of the 13 of my cabin mates. They sang Happy Birthday to me while I set up the tripod and automatic timer on the camera.

 

And then there was this…

Yep, that’s me hanging with the Harlot.   She was as funny and down-to-earth as I had hoped she would be. She’s written several books and has been described as the David Sedaris of the knitting world.  My hubbie sent me to SAW with some of his homebrew to give her, Moreland Brewing Company’s Bunjie Brown Ale and The Baxter Black Geek Stout. Our conversation was short and sweet and covered all the bases:

LL: I’ve brought some beer for you.

Harlot: I love Beer!

LL: I know!

Harlot: This is very exciting for me. No one’s ever brought me beer before.

LL: You’re kind but I am sure this is much more exciting for me to be giving beer to the Harlot. Be careful, the Stout is 9% alcohol.

Harlot: I’m Canadian, I can handle it.

She was so kind and was as nice as could be.  I was glad that my “knitting Rock Star hero” lived up to my expectations.  Seriously, I tried to prepare myself that she may not be as cool in person. Nope, even cooler and wittier.  And the best part: my morning and afternoon class, Knitting for Speed and Efficiency, was with her … Stephanie Pearl-McPhee aka the Yarn Harlot. The morning session was an incredible look into the history of knitting.  Did you know it’s been around 1000 years and spinning is even older?  The first time knitting is mentioned in literature is in Shakespeare? She talked about the two different types of people: people who knit for pay and people who knit for pleasure.  We watched an interesting slide show  on knitting in art and talked about how women were always multitasking, much like we do today.  They would carry large baskets of peat for the fire on their backs while knitting.  Small knitting belts held their knitting and they would knit when they had a few spare moments…waiting for the kettle to boil, hanging things to dry. No idle hands.  We also watched a video of the 5 fastest knitters in the world: two pickers and three lever knitters.  The afternoon session was spent learning to “lever” knit, the type of knitting that for profit knitters used for its speed and efficiency.  Here’s Harlot demonstrating. Her hands were moving so fast that they show up as a blur.  She knits about 60 stitches a minute with one needle tucked in her armpit and the other whipping back and forth like a sewing machine!   Amazing to watch.

The Harlot then showed us how to hold the yarn and make a go of it ourselves.

I took copious notes hoping I could remember how to do it when I got home because there are no books or videos demonstrating the technique. Well, no videos that you can accurately learn from.  It was a wonderful class and I thoroughly enjoyed it.

It also made me thankful that I don’t have to support myself with my knitting! We would definitely starve. Think I’ll stick with the day job for now.

All in all, it was a wonderful birthday. Class with the Harlot.  Knitting on the porch.

The evening was spent with my cabin mates around the fire giggling and talking about things like, “you should really google the name of your knit shop before you name it, to make sure it doesn’t mean something disgusting.” True Story.

Yes, it doesn’t matter what age you are when you go to camp. You still end up talking about disgusting things and laughing into the wee hours of the night.

And it wouldn’t be a post about Squam without a picture of the lake.  Enjoy your day.

 

 

 

 

Posted in homebrew, Knitting, Squam Art Workshops | Tagged , , , , | 2 Comments

This One Time at Knit Camp…Day 2

The First Day of Class at SAW

My night’s sleep before our first day of classes at SAW (Squam Art Workshops) was a bit fitful. Although the strong breeze off the lake made for much cooler temperatures at night than the day’s 90 degree weather, I still couldn’t relax.  It wasn’t the small cabin room or the fact that I was sleeping next to a stranger.  I had after all shared a meal, a few beers and some knitting time with her and I knew her daughter’s name.  It wasn’t even that I missed my own comfy bed with the hubbie and the dog, which I did.  Nope, the real reason was… it felt like Christmas Eve in June.

True, I was already at Squam, had been to the opening ceremony, had met my cabin mates and knew they were great. It was just that I was so very excited for my first day of class.  Yes, growing up I was one of those kids that even when September came too soon, still enjoyed the first day of school.  My morning and afternoon sessions at SAW were with Jessica Marquez in the Pictures and Stitches class. (a very sweet, artist person) The focus of the day was on being relaxed and creative. No work, no phones, no laundry, no obligations, no responsibilities except to let my creative juices flow.

So I had lain awake the night before thinking about how much fun it would be and wondered how often we actually set aside time in our busy lives to learn a new skill, especially if that skill is purely for pleasure? Why do the words “hobbies” and “crafts” take on the negative connotation that they aren’t worthwhile endeavors or that only people with gobs of free time do them? At what point did feeding one’s soul become an afterthought and deemed frivolous? I have a tendency to ask the big questions right as I am trying to fall asleep.

For me, attending SAW was all about meeting people with common interests, embarking on a great adventure up North and about taking time to feed my creative soul. As the years stack up, my need to take time to play, to create, and quite simply put, to pay attention to my very neglected Inner Child has become quite strong.  I had already experienced a
unique kind of freedom at Squam in my short few hours there, freedom to wear my brightest colored clothes, freedom to be who I truly am (a little neurotic with a whole lot of joy mixed in) without feeling self-conscious and freedom to laugh loudly and occasionally snort at obscure knitting jokes.

I did finally fall asleep and awoke to a sunrise that glided across the lake through our open bedroom door and gently landed on my pillow. What a wonderfully calm way to greet the day.  I knew it was going to be a good one.

Our class was held in a cabin/barn-like structure called Sugar House.

Jessica had told us to bring photocopies of pictures that we would embroider onto linen or muslin. I wanted to learn to embroider after seeing the intricate stitches on pillow cases and dresser linens made by my grandmother and great grandmother.  Now, I was ecstatic to have a whole day to devote to learning.

We spent the morning mastering several stitches including the running stitch, back stitch, French knots, satin stitch, chain stitch, and fishbone stitch. Unlike the buggy stifling heat from the day before, it was chilly in the cabin. We huddled around tables happily chatting and stitching away, everyone encouraging one another with their projects.

My cabin mate, Liz and I decided that although we liked embroidery, we didn’t like threading the needle. We broke 3 needle threaders in the process and eventually just held a bit of wire to pull the thread through the eye hole. Every time we successfully changed threads, we rejoiced.  It was the pure, simple pleasure of learning a new skill.

 

To get the image on the muslin, we first traced our picture onto tracing paper. Then, we placed carbon paper between the muslin and the tracing paper and retraced the image again. The result was a nice outline to follow on the muslin.  Next, we looked at each section of the image to decide what type of stitch would best outline or fill in that section to add texture and bring life to the picture.

I brought a picture I had snapped of two little grape tomatoes with yellow blossoms, a simple outline with some fun chicken wire in the background I hope to eventually appliqué onto a reusable veggie bag for the market.  Although I didn’t finish my piece that day, I did learn enough to finish it on my own at home.

The fun of the day continued into the evening with a talk by the Yarn Harlot in the  Playhouse under twinkling lights.  She stood in front of the fire amusing us with a discussion about knitting, of course.  In particular, it’s mental, physical and spiritual benefits, its ability to bring people together and also its ability to make people ask stupid questions.

That’s Elizabeth MacCrellish, head Squammie, on the left introducing the Yarn Harlot, Stephanie Pearl McPhee on the right.

Stupid questions like “Did they really let you bring those knitting needles on the plane?” asked of a person sitting on a plane, quite obviously knitting.  As the Harlot says, responses may vary depending on the knitter and the knitter’s mood from “no, I’m not really holding needles you are just imagining it” to “ I bribed the scanner person, tunneled under the runway, came up by the plane and snuck on it and then slept with the pilot when he discovered me holding knitting needles.”

Harlot’s talk was timely because just the night before I had thought about how one of the benefits of attending SAW and being surrounded by like-minded people is that you can focus on something fun and soulful without having to make excuses for wanting to do it or for taking time to do it .

It is a unique talent to be able to answer such questions as “how do you find the time to knit, garden or craft? ” with intelligence and composure.  Drawing on my SAW experiences and the Harlot’s talk, I now hope to reply in an even tone “your day also has 24 hours in it, as does mine. I just choose to spend my time differently because no matter how much you may complain about having to go to work, stand in line at the dentist’s office, run carpool or put dinner on the table, I too have things that are just as important and just as time consuming.  The difference is that I have chosen to add my inner child, my soul, my creative spirit to my list of priorities and I shouldn’t have to apologize for it.”  Thank goodness, I have a supportive hubby who feels the same way.

All children, even inner children, deserve creative time to grow their spirits.

Posted in Craftiness, Squam Art Workshops | Tagged | 6 Comments